13. September 2016 Sam Ryter

How to follow your Dreams – 6 Lessons I’ve learned (8min read)

They told me that I couldn’t change the world. They told me I was a dreamer, not realistic. Today I know: The more people who step up, go for their dreams, take action from their hearts, the better this world gets.

I’m at a point in my life where I can honestly say that I live my dream. It’s fulfilling me to help people and to have such a high purpose. It needed a lot of courage, and most importantly it needed a lot of work with myself. With my fears, that held me back from taking action, from playing big, from actually dreaming a life that seemed so impossible.

In this article I want to share with you what I’ve learned, why I think it’s important to dream big and that living the dream comes from a simple decision.

Lesson 1: You can create something extraordinary

It’s within you. I see it over and over again. It’s not just for a few selected people. Everyone can create something extraordinary.

What differentiates the ones who actually live their dreams, and the ones who don’t, is the way they take action.

We grow up in a society where we are conditioned to think small. ‘Who am I to change the world?’ ‘I can’t do it anyways.’ ‘I’m not gifted enough.’

It is normal to have fears, to have ‘excuses’ like these. But I like to challenge you on that? Who are you not to change the world?

“You create opportunities by performing, not complaining.” – Muriel Siebert

The first step is believing in yourself. Stop thinking small. I know that it’s within you. And you can do it. I know that behind love is a power that makes us manifest everything we want.

Lesson 2: Allow yourself to dream

What is your vision, what would you like to create? It’s a question we should ask ourselves more often.

Most people don’t dare to dream.

And with dreaming I don’t mean just, dreaming about having more money and getting more external validation. With dreaming I mean having a vision about what we could give to the world.

  • How would your perfect average day look like?
  • What would you love to do?
  • How could I help and inspire others with that?
  • How could I contribute to make this world a better place with that?

I highly recommend you to take yourself an hour and start to envision how you want to show up in this world. Block it out in your calendar.

Allowing yourself to dream is the first step to follow your dreams.

Allowing yourself to dream and to consider it as possible is the first step. – Photo by Unsplash

Rarely people do this. Rarely people dare to dream. Because only kids dream. And as they grow up we condition them to ‘think realistic’. Be realistic. It’s the most popular excuse for those who are afraid of their own power.

Allow yourself to dream, and allow yourself to go for it. The world needs more people like you.

If everyone would follow his deepest calling, the world would be a better place.

Be the change you want to see in the world – Gandhi

Lesson 3: Success is staying true to yourself

Especially in the beginning, I was afraid to try something and to fail. Other people would come and judge us. This fear held me back from following my heart.

But what I’ve learned is, that failure doesn’t exist if we stay true to ourselves and that success is more than just getting an outcome.

What is success to you? If success is getting a certain outcome in your life, then you will have a hard time. You still will be able to reach your goals, but because people see success as a certain outcome they are afraid to try.

How about changing the idea of success into something that we actually can control.

I started to have faith in myself when I changed my meaning of success. My success was to show up. Because that was the only thing I could control in that situation. That was the only thing to focus on – And there’s nothing to lose.

There is nothing to lose when you stay true to yourself and follow your dreams.

There is nothing to lose when you do what you love to do. – Photo by Unsplash

Lesson 4: Not trying is the only failure

Not taking action, towards your dream is the only failure you can experience. So many people wish something but are afraid to take action.

A palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives.

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

I believe that no one ever has to live a life that is not true to himself. I believe that no one has to work at a job that keeps her/him quiet in a small box.

One thing is sure: One day we will die. How we live our lives is our decision. I would like to encourage you to live one where you can follow our own path, to love, to live fully than to be frustrated but to have a ‘secure’-job. Getting paid to buy things we don’t really need. And working for the weekend. It’s a decision. To me, the answer is clear.

It’s never too late to do something. Everyone can do it. The ones who try and go for it, will succeed.

Don’t let a lack of confidence be an excuse. If you have confidence issues, you might want to read this article: http://www.samuelryter.com/turn-lack-confidence-strenght/

With taking action confidence arises. We are all insecure in the beginning. Don’t worry. Confidence will arise with time.

I like to ask you: What are the next steps you can do to get closer to your dream?

Lesson 5: Thinking different makes the difference

I experienced it now so many times. The people I work with often inspired me so much. To live your dream you have to think different. And to think different, start questioning the world you live in.

We live in a world full of frustrated people. We have so many people suffering from heart attacks, stress, depression and so on.

People trade their lives against money. They work for a machine. 42h a week. Addicted to coffee and the newsfeed to distract themselves from the pain.

At least they get 4 weeks of holiday per year. And the weekends, so they can smash their heads away to forget that the whole misery starts again on Monday.

This is what we consider as normal.

But just because something is normal, it doesn’t mean it has to be good.

We consider people as crazy, when they have big dreams. But you know what? It’s okay to be crazy, if that’s the price not to feel imprisoned in a cycle where we feel held back.

In the beginning you will be challenged. As you start off, people will mock you. Well, that happened to me at least. You will mock yourself.

I remember, the first time I called out at my 9-5 job that I wanted to change the world, the responses turned into laughter. They told me that this was a very immature way of thinking. That I should stop dreaming.

It kept me back, because I believed them. ‘Maybe they are right’. ‘Maybe I’m crazy.’

This is the reason why we are afraid of change. It’s a step into the unknown. You will be challenged by others. But that’s okay, just do it anyways. Because you don’t have to live by the expectations of others.

Lesson 6: Following dreams is a journey of self-growth

By following your dream, we are simultaneously going on a beautiful journey with ourselves. We learn, we grow, we make experiences and we fall and get up again.

But again, as we love what we do, there is no failure. There are just experiences. That’s why your motivation is so important. Are you doing it just for the money or are you having a strong purpose behind it?

You will learn more about yourself, than you’ve ever thought. Because once you go on this journey, there is no one left to blame. But you. And that’s something you have to deal with. To make peace with yourself. Peace with your ‘bad’ emotions. To focus on love. And this is what will make you an amazing human being.

The world needs you

It starts in this moment. I believe we all can change the world. And it starts with small things. Because it’s a decision. It’s our decision how we treat others, how we show up, how we treat ourselves.

Imagine a world where people would follow their dreams. The world would be such a happy place. People would be less stressed and much more evolved.

You can be the change as you think differently.

Zoom out. Question your reality. And do something that matters to you!

QuestionWhat would you like to create? This is your chance to call it out and make a decision to make it a reality. Leave your answer in the comments.

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Sam Ryter

Sam Ryter is an author and professional coach. He helps people to create deeper and more fulfilling relationships with others, the world and themselves.

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